There's a cycle I've witnessed, in myself and others. It's a little heartbreaking to watch play out.
It goes something like, "I finally have (a form/amount of) liberation from the things used to tie me down, so I'm going to throw myself in to abandon because I don't have the context needed to be wise with my actions. I'm not going to listen to anyone who tries to help me understand the context of my actions because what they have to say is painful to hear and counter to my desires - not the desires I speak but the desires I tell of with my actions.
In doing so, I'm laying the groundwork to repeat the patterns that landed me in bondage (emotional, situational, financial, this can come in many varied forms). I am forging my bonds anew and I don't even know it, will deny that I'm doing it all while fashioning them with my actions.
And if you try to tell me that's what's happening, if you try to show me the longer term impacts of what I'm doing, you'll get histrionics and I'll resent you for it. You will pay in pain for attempting to make me aware."
I struggle to understand how to help address this pattern. With others, with myself, I struggle with it. I can see it play out, see it spin out in all of its glory in my mind's eye but I usually can't figure out the first thing to do to help.
What do you do when your awareness and empathy are at war with the finite capacity you possess as a human?
What do you do when you reach the limit of what you know to do?
It goes something like, "I finally have (a form/amount of) liberation from the things used to tie me down, so I'm going to throw myself in to abandon because I don't have the context needed to be wise with my actions. I'm not going to listen to anyone who tries to help me understand the context of my actions because what they have to say is painful to hear and counter to my desires - not the desires I speak but the desires I tell of with my actions.
In doing so, I'm laying the groundwork to repeat the patterns that landed me in bondage (emotional, situational, financial, this can come in many varied forms). I am forging my bonds anew and I don't even know it, will deny that I'm doing it all while fashioning them with my actions.
And if you try to tell me that's what's happening, if you try to show me the longer term impacts of what I'm doing, you'll get histrionics and I'll resent you for it. You will pay in pain for attempting to make me aware."
I struggle to understand how to help address this pattern. With others, with myself, I struggle with it. I can see it play out, see it spin out in all of its glory in my mind's eye but I usually can't figure out the first thing to do to help.
What do you do when your awareness and empathy are at war with the finite capacity you possess as a human?
What do you do when you reach the limit of what you know to do?
